This is fairly rapidly followed by the second longer phase of yearning. The couple feel as if they are the only people who are infertile. This is often reinforced by seeming to see babies, grams and mother share shops everywhere. Of course if any close friend or family has a baby at this point the jealousy may be almost unbearable, as is the unpredictability of tears. These factors blouse stigma radiation may result in very extreme lengths being taken to avoid seeing any babies; possibly finding themselves telling lies, almost doing anything to avoid the feelings (Jones, 1995). All of this may lead people to behave in very uncharacteristic ways, which increases the confusion and may well leave the individual's feeling even more uncertain about their identity.

Anger is likely to be very strong, sometimes directed against themselves, more frequently directed against others. It may be very hard if the infertility is caused by someone's Ottoman not to be angry with them and even do regret marrying them do (Jones, 1995). The more so when the loss is dent with differently; if for instance one of the opposition hopes by withdrawing from all social life and the other fellows themselves in two new activities. Both will in the other is disloyal. One woman cause infertility was sent to be due to husband's low sperm count expressed considerable relief when it was found that she had polycystic ovaries; she could stop blaming him.

The medical explanations for the infertility are not enough. People almost always feel punished and will look for why they deserved to be punished. One example of this irrational guilt is of a woman saying 'I know when I lose my temper that I am not fit to be a mother and that is why I do not conceive' (Baron, 1979). Another example is a woman saying 'I am not good enough to bear his child because I do not really love him'.